NENE's paradise

以下轉錄自 PTT版友 Nospeaking 文章

在淡綠色的心情下
                                                                               
我寫上幾句淡淡的註解
                                                                               
為在這個季節傷心流淚的人撫平深裂的傷痕...
                                                                               
　
                                                                               
不是每個人都有資格說愛
                                                                               
因為愛與濫情是天差地遠
                                                                               
當世界上的女人都在怨恨為什麼世界上都沒有好男人的同時
                                                                               
怎麼不想想為什麼自己愛的卻都是一些濫情的壞男人

當你想要好好愛一場的時候
                                                                               
你可否思考自己在這場愛情裡面的角色
                                                                               
　
                                                                               
愛是兩人互補與配合的成果
                                                                               
單方面的付出或單方面的獲得都是失衡的
                                                                               
通常這樣的感情僅能有短暫的火花
                                                                               
維持不了

你要好好的思考
                                                                               
自己天生的個性、人格、習慣
                                                                               
當你夠了解自己
                                                                               
當你真的發覺自己將來在愛情中的定位
                                                                               
你會更能找到適合自己的人
當然這並不是天生就與生俱來的本能
                                                                               
很多人在經歷多次感情的挫折之後
                                                                               
才赫然發現自己所需要的並不是前幾次所投入的
                                                                               
當一次一次在感情的過程中反省自己的定位
                                                                               
當一次一次在挫折中學習自己的需要與他人的需要
                                                                               
當一次一次你修正自己也調整自己
                                                                               
當一次一次你有了心理建設你有了自己的定位
                                                                               
後來的她（他）將會更能適合你

                                                                               
很多人都說
                                                                               
自己最愛的卻不是跟自己走最久的
                                                                               
那是因為修正自己的想法、了解自己的需要之後
                                                                               
才會去反省自己在當初的感情中任性了哪些
                                                                               
強求了哪些
                                                                               
又獲得或失去了哪些
                                                                               
當你發覺自己所得到的比自己失去的還要珍貴
                                                                               
那麼你還會在意失去的那些嗎？


能愛人與被愛
                                                                               
都是幸福的
                                                                               
在幸福的滋味中創造兩個人的甜蜜與快樂
                                                                               
你一定很渴望
                                                                               
你一定很嚮往
                                                                               
但是當所謂的長長久久沒辦法維持的時候
                                                                               
所受的傷卻是那些快樂與痛苦的數倍

何不好好的把自己了解一番
                                                                               
知道自己所需要的
                                                                               
了解自己所能給予的
                                                                               
發現自己所期待的
                                                                               
然後好好的去扮演應該要扮演的角色

你做到了嗎
                                                                               
你準備好了嗎

當你發現自己已經做好了這些準備

你就好好的放手去愛吧